No!

Need Them Back!

nancy
2 min readJan 20, 2023
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It exists. I am aware that it cripples the best of us. I have personally experienced an intense sense of it. This has been one of my greatest fears ever. There is no way to escape it.

It could be the fear of losing a parent, child, spouse, friend, or someone you care about or are attached to. It comes on at the strangest times. Usually when things are "good."

We are consumed by that raw and visceral emotion. It’s almost as if we punish ourselves when we’re happy. Mind is a cowardly coward.

Why do you feel so happy? It mumbles.

What if this person goes missing? What if they suffer a negative outcome? What are your plans? In order to be better prepared for this tragedy, you need to dress up and practice.

It will hurt even worse if you don't.

If you have this feeling. You won’t be alone. We believe that the people we care about most do not belong to us. This fear is fundamentally motivated by a sense of scarcity and deprivation.

In her book "The Gifts of Imperfection," Brene Brown offers a potent remedy. Gratitude is the antidote.

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Instead of being afraid that we will lose them. We have to be thankful for them. From the core of your being, cultivate gratitude for their joy and presence in your life. They and you both deserve it.

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nancy

Spina bifida survivor, college student, learn, laugh, and love. SIMPLY ENJOY LIFE!